UPDATE: Miss Manners has released immediate advice addressing a growing concern at social gatherings: how to politely avoid sharing phones during meals. As many grapple with hygiene in light of health concerns, this advice is timely for those navigating similar situations.
A reader expresses discomfort as a friend frequently passes his cellphone around the dinner table, sharing photos. This poses a significant issue for her husband, who is immunocompromised. With heightened sensitivity to germs, the couple seeks a respectful way to decline phone-sharing without offending their friend.
Miss Manners recommends a straightforward solution: gently inform guests that the table is a device-free zone. This approach not only addresses the immediate concern but also paves the way for a healthier dining experience in the future. If the situation arises unexpectedly, she suggests a quick maneuver: stand up, approach your husband, and intercept the phone before it reaches him, showing interest in the photo while redirecting it to the next guest.
In addition to this pressing social dilemma, Miss Manners also tackled the etiquette surrounding holiday invitations. A neighbor’s open house invitation requires guests to bring food without an RSVP request. Although some may feel inclined to skip the event, Miss Manners insists that etiquette demands a response, whether accepting or declining the invitation.
This advice is crucial as social dynamics shift—many are now reconsidering traditional norms in light of recent health concerns. With gatherings becoming more frequent again, understanding proper etiquette is essential for maintaining harmony among friends and family.
As the holiday season approaches, another reader inquires about the obligation to travel with friends who don’t share similar interests. Miss Manners reassures that no one is obliged to travel with friends, even those with whom they have shared experiences. Instead, she suggests avoiding discussions about future trips until plans are more concrete.
As these social norms evolve, Miss Manners’ insights provide invaluable guidance for managing interpersonal dynamics effectively. With gatherings on the rise, her advice is more relevant than ever.
Next Steps: For readers facing similar situations, consider implementing Miss Manners’ strategies at your next gathering. Understanding and navigating these social nuances can enhance your interactions, ensuring that everyone feels comfortable and respected.
Miss Manners invites readers to send their questions directly via her website or email for personalized advice on navigating modern etiquette challenges.
