UPDATE: As the holiday season approaches, many families are navigating the complexities of divorce. Just announced, advice columnist Eric Thomas is offering immediate guidance on how to acknowledge impending divorces in holiday communications, particularly Christmas cards.
For those facing a divorce, the challenge of sending out holiday greetings can feel overwhelming. Thomas responded to readers’ inquiries about how to share personal family changes without dampening holiday spirits.
One reader suggested a clever and light-hearted approach: creating a bulleted list highlighting both changes and constants in family life. For example, “My last name is now Smith” alongside “Our cat Dave is still with us at 17” provides a succinct update while maintaining a positive tone.
Another reader shared their experience of sending a “Happy New Year/New Name” card, emphasizing the amicable nature of their split. This method allows families to keep holiday well-wishes separate from potentially sensitive news, making it easier for recipients to respond positively.
In a heartfelt account, a reader reflected on including their soon-to-be ex-spouse in their holiday card to convey that despite separation, family ties remain strong. They wrote, “What a doozy of a year… [ex’s name] and I split, but amicably,” demonstrating that authenticity can resonate deeply during difficult times.
Thomas also highlighted the power of humor and creativity in these communications. One reader, whose divorce was finalized shortly before last Christmas, chose to announce their new address through their New Year’s card, featuring a photo of their dog. The message was light-hearted, stating the dog would be “hopping between his dog beds at two houses,” a charming way to share news without it becoming a downer.
The emotional weight of such transitions can also be expressed through personalized messages. A reader shared a bold card design featuring her riding a motorcycle with friends, stating, “Life is good!” This approach garnered numerous inquiries, showcasing how embracing one’s personality can help navigate the complexities of family changes.
As families grapple with these changes, Thomas reminds readers that it’s crucial to prioritize open communication. For those feeling unacknowledged by their adult children, he advises against obligatory gift-giving, suggesting instead to focus on honest conversations to improve relationships.
In another poignant inquiry, a reader sought advice on resolving a rift between their son and ex-husband, emphasizing the importance of reconciliation. Thomas advised focusing on personal relationships rather than forcing others to mend ties, reminding the reader that they shouldn’t suffer due to others’ conflicts.
As the holiday season approaches, these insights offer immediate and actionable advice for families facing the realities of divorce. The urgency to address personal changes in a sensitive yet positive manner is paramount as many prepare to send out their holiday greetings.
For more advice and support on navigating family dynamics during the holidays, readers can contact Eric Thomas directly at [email protected] or follow him on Instagram.
